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‘Willingness To Be Surprised’ Is A Viable Practice

‘WILLINGNESS TO BE SURPRISED is practical.  This viable practice holds us available to spontaneity.  Distinguishing ‘What’s not been recognized’ we allow ‘I’m open’ and receive assistance.’…CONSTRUCT DevelopmentConversation Journal, QuintessentialYou Design

There is a vast difference between looking for a particular result and opening to a plethora of expressions that fulfill desire.  We are used to looking and in our looking, pushing a little here and forcing a little there to have the pieces fit and the picture we have in mind take form.  Opening calls for something less familiar, a behavior less often taught, trained, and supported in our culture.

Looking keeps our path pretty narrow.  We set a goal.  We distinguish a set of steps that lead to the achievement of that established goal and as we take these steps, we move out of our way or overcome any obstacles that enter the path to our pre-determined result.  Pretty straightforward… except when it’s not.

Desire, on the other hand, opens to and rolls out a broad spectrum with some familiar and generally more foreign factors.  We presence desire.  We distinguish the elements and characteristics of desire and most importantly, the experience of its fulfillment.  Rather than determining steps that have historically lead to gain, we commit to taking this journey newly – to staying in the process that is being revealed this time around.  Accomplishment comes by way of receiving from a wide open field.

What’s so different about these two approaches?  What is key in choosing one versus the other?  I would say the primary distinguishing practice is  ‘Willingness To Be Surprised’.  I am not speaking here of being willing to be surprised.  I am specifically talking about taking on the state of ‘Willingness To Be Surprised’ – becoming ‘Willingness To Be Surprised’.

Here’s some key differences between these two approaches.

Goal setting narrows the field.  Opening to Desire expands the field.

Goal setting works toward achievement.  Opening to Desire makes way for accomplishment.

Goal setting follows steps in a plan.  Desire makes way for new openings and options  that have not been considered.

Goal setting calls us to be committed to action motivated by movement along a path.  Desire holds us in Willingness To Be Surprised, inducing action from inspiration and indication.

In the work of QuintessentialYou Design, Willingness To Be Surprised arises out of the practice of Attending To Intuition that comes just before it.  It is a luscious practice that produces a peaceful experience and spontaneous opportunity.

How do you prefer to meet life – through goal setting for achievement or from pure desire and Willingness To Be Surprised?  Are you on a path or open to fulfillment from the field?  Are you working a set of pre-determined steps for achievement or taking action from inspiration and receiving assistance for accomplishment?





2 Responses to “‘Willingness To Be Surprised’ Is A Viable Practice”

  1. Sylvia Metz says:

    Absolutely love this, Kathy. Goalsetting never worked for me…despite the number of times I set them out, step by step. The process was always arduous and filled with pressure and ‘work’.

    This has ever been true for me with my health. No matter how many goals I set, how many tried and true methods the experts expounded to me, it was only when I let go all of these that new opportunities were seen. With intution and faith in QYou’s practices, I followed a winding path. I now find myself in a state of health and wellness that previously eluded me…and, I didn’t work myself into a frenzy to accomplish a thing. My Desire was health and my process was QYou. Much easier…!

    In being the state ‘Willingness to Be Surprised’, I am open to what might be possible and notice connections I would not have otherwise seen had I had my eye on the ‘step’. In this state, I find it easier to be tuned into life’s conversation…as though it’s telling/showing me the steps to take. Sometimes life shows you a direction that may not make any sense whatsoever. Yet, in moving in that direction, the realization of what I desire shows up.

    Willingess to be surprised is one of the most fun practices of QYou…. and a definite favourite of mine.

  2. Kathleen says:

    How great! – the desire for a state of health and wellness realized!
    I love your description of being ‘tuned into life’s conversation’. What a wonderful picture of a dialogue and partnership with life….even when its indicated direction is somewhat of mystery, not making immediate sense in the pathway to fulfilling desire!

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